Opening a Private Practice and then deciding what and how I will become has been and continues to be a humbling experience. I want to reach as many people I can who are in need but realize not only does that take time but money. So my friend Angel suggested I start a blog and a dedicated facebook page with my thoughts...My first reaction was who would want to listen to me...then I realized that I wanted to listen to me and my thoughts might, or might not, be of help to others.
At 52, I am still amazed at the lessons I am learning. And some I choose not to learn, validating sometimes you cant teach an old dog new tricks. My reality, in the here and now, is not half bad. I am alive, healthy with no serious physical or mental defects (atleast ones that have not surfaced as of yet), and still can eat potato chips with out feeling guilty. If I look backwards, I begin to feel regret regarding past parenting that wasnt done for my kids, a college degree that could of been completed in my 20s but was stalled due to "girls just want to have fun" and babies (true for me), and choices that were made with out consideration of harm to others. If I look forward I see the possibility of not being able to eat potato chips with out guilt, my parents not being around to tell me what to do and that I better not lose "this husband", as well as artificial joints due to my constant belief that exercise without pain is no gain.
Staying in the "now" is a subject that many self help books are centered on. What does that actually mean? Does it mean that looking at yourself today and realizing your grey roots are showing? For kids, does that mean looking at today in school and how your teacher is going to quiz you in the next hour and you did not study? Notice that both "now" realities are negative but what would happen if you did alittle twist to the negative reality and balanced it with a positive...such as...If you grey roots are showing, YIPEE! I can either go gossip at the beauty shop as I get a touch up or spend a great 25 minutes in my bath tubs, in peace, as I touch up my own roots. Now, for the quiz not studied for...YIPPEE! I will take the quiz and find out what I need to study for to do well on the next test.
Okay, I agree...staying in the "now" or present reality is work! But one thing I do know...and as beaten to death this saying is, it is sooo true...I cant change the past, dont know about the future but I can sure damn well make the most of what is happening today...even the challenges. So the words might be alittle different but as I do, you put those well worn sayings in your vocabulary to make sense to you...cuz really you are the one that has to find meaning in those words.
So...question...Are you looking at your reality as it really is and making the most of it? Or are you worried about the past, glorifying/demonizing an unrealistic future and stuck in the present...?
There is more to this "now" thing...And more to come...If your reading, it will continue...
Dayna
Can I come out NOW?
